Whether you’re having sex with someone you’ve known for seven years or someone you met in a bar, there are some things you should never say. Most men believe they are always the initiators, which creates instability on the passion scale in the relationship.
You don’t have to engage in these pointless conversations while having sex, and it will only serve to dampen both your partner’s and your mood. You might even wind up damaging someone’s self-esteem by doing these things. What follows are 10 things you should never say to another person when having sex.
1) Is it in?
To a male, never say this. Hearing this in the context of a sex act is the height of insensitivity for a male partner. The size of a man’s penis is a big deal to him, and he takes it very seriously. They’re continuously concerned about their ability to have sex with others. It’s fine to ponder about size, but don’t say anything about it out loud. When you ask whether it’s in when it’s already in, you’re insulting their genital size.
2) You aren’t trying hard enough.
We’ve all been there at one point or another. You both know why it’s not going in, yet it’s not going in. It’s okay to tell a white lie now and then in this unpleasant situation. If it doesn’t fit, just pretend it doesn’t since it is simpler this way and nobody’s emotions are harmed.
3) The choice is yours, of course
But what do you want, then? In bed, it’s important to be confident and clear-headed. If you want something, don’t be scared to ask for it and express your displeasure with it. Give it a hearty “oh Yesss” as though it’s a lifelong dream come true if you love it. But if it’s something you don’t want, make it obvious. Having clear intent is usually the best option in bed. Surprises can be nice though!
4) Can we get this done quickly?
If you’re in a hurry to go to some places or make an important call, you might as well skip the sex. However, if you are in the middle of it and keep repeating you want to complete it soon, it will be a major turn-off. It will destroy the mood and put pressure on the male to ejaculate immediately. If a quickie is what you’re looking for, you should be clear about it before you begin.
5) Can you tell me how many people you’ve slept with?
Asking about sexual health with a new partner or even a regular one. Before the first snog, Inquire if the potential partner has ever experienced a cold sore. STIs should be discussed before intercourse, not as an afterthought, so the conversation isn’t a distraction. Your ‘number’ is the same. For mid-sex, it may not be the best time to discuss it.
6) This is not the way to go about it.
Every couple should make it a habit to discuss sex and strengthen their intimacy. However, this should never be done while having sex. If your spouse tells you this isn’t how you’re meant to do it when you’re making love, you’re going to feel insecure. So make sure you don’t mention this to your partner when they’re having sex. This statement may ruin the mood when everything is steaming and sweltering.
7) I’m sorry, but I have to take that call.
What could be more frustrating than someone who interrupts sex to take a phone call? This is one of the most significant deterrents ever. Sex is a gratifying and satisfying action. If you get up in the middle of anything to take a phone call, chances are you’re not really enjoying it or you’re clueless about sex and how to approach it.
8) My ex liked it.
Never discuss an ex during sex. How good your ex was in bed or what she enjoyed is irrelevant. Your past belongs there. Most importantly, your present spouse isn’t interested in your ex’s preferences. This should be avoided at all costs.
9) That wasn’t a fart, though.
What causes some sex positions to generate sounds eerily similar to farts to the listener? No matter how embarrassing this is, simply laugh it off and go on. It’s very normal to feel this way. When I had a loud air expulsion, I used to joke that it was the “sound your orgasms produce.”
Some of these sounds can be known as a queef, which is just air leaving the vagina.
10) When you say, “are you coming?”
“Are you almost finished?” The Big O may have passed, or you may be becoming a little sleepy and hungry. In either case, pressure in the bedroom is a foe. Change places or ask “Is there anything you need me to do?” if you’re having trouble getting along with your coworker. Another option is to declare you’re not feeling it and be really honest. If that doesn’t work, you can always pretend you’re going to the bathroom…
In Conclusion
During sex, these are the ten things you should never say. It’s possible that any or all of them might be deal-breakers. An easy way to maintain the mood during sex is simply having a vibrator handy. These small devices can easily enhance the mood.